A sample of boys and girls playing together will reveal to you how much kids adapt faster to reality.A girl child would most of the time prefer to play alongside its baby doll and have dedicated time petting it ,feeding it,clothing it,washing it and drying it up.This is as a reflection of what the mother would do to a baby.The baby is in touch with reality and has already learnt the cycle of what a mother goes through to nurture a baby.These might also include inviting her friends over for phoney tea parties with participants all dolled up with make up and cologne carrying with them hand purses with the intention of discussing how better they would raise their doll kids.

A boy child in the same scenario would assume the role of a Chinese Samurai with a plastic sword tied within around the waist of his trousers marching to and fro waiting for a giant alien to hang loose by the kitchen wall so he could slice it;to make it seem even more authentic,he would call upon his friend to act as an active alien who would repeat the process of dying and reincarnating from the sword stabs.The game never has quite a good ending.

The differences seem to linger even in the selection of toys.A girl child would move on to select a barbie doll that she would even buy for a set of hair accessories,shoes,colognes that they would share as the feeling she has for the doll is maternal.She becomes emotionally attached to the extent she would wish for a talking doll.She even knits new clothes for it and dresses it.What the child doesn’t know is that she is progressively embracing a mother figure she would soon become.This explains the soft touch and the emotional break downs among ladies.when a part of a doll breaks,she would cry in pain as if its own child has been broken.

A boy child would walk into a toy store with a green lantern action figure at the back of his mind.He decides to choose yet another superman action figure and God knows the level of activity  to be gauged that evening in the house.He assumes both the roles of his characters and puts them into a series of never ending matches.With progressive play,an intentional disfiguring of the action figures takes place to represent a move he had seen on DC comic TV series.No emotional attachment,if anything,he requests for another action figure as a replacement for the maimed ones.

A girl chooses a doll,and if it comes to a liking of two,she takes them for the company of each other,she would like the two dolls to watch over each other when she is away for school.The world of reality is more conscious to the girl child than to the boy child.The boy child fails to come into terms with the limits of their powers.They still think they can fly like superman,they still think they can control the television set with the blink of their eyes like a creep they saw on x-men.They believe in mutation.Their constant touch to their world of fantasies in which the possibility of omnipotence still exists.


    1. Thank you Mary Ann.Currently I am on a research basis aimed to comprehend the developmental factors that scratch innocence from childhood and to analyze irrationality that transpires with age.I am open to both criticism and motivation


    1. I wouldn’t say its an inate element that comes with sex, rather on our cultural settings for gender. We distinguish our role plays,and we tend to teach children to behave in accordance to how we set our differenciated roles in the society. It is a conditional form of learning. Most African parents tend to punish their male children if they possess a rather ‘sissy’ approach

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  1. Interesting post. This might put a wrench in your therory though. I was a Tom Boy, loved playing baseball, football, trucks, climbing trees, beating all the boys at running, etc., until I turned about fourteen. My whole world changed at that time. I saw boys differently. I started to think they were handsome and wished someday one of them would kiss me, I wanted to go on a date, hold hands and had day dreams about being pretty. My days of being a Tom Boy dwindled and I became a woman. I was raised in a family with five other siblings four of them were girls and one boy. We were all treated the same by our parents. I was not chastized for being a Tom Boy. Both my parents just let us be who we were. I married and my husband and I raised three wonderful children. I am not an expert but I believe who you are and who you will be is in your DNA or gene pool.
    I have a cousin when he was three we all knew he was going to be gay. It was no suprise when he announced it when he was in his teens. It didn’t matter we all still love him and he is a happy person and was never chastized by any family member. Does any of this have to do with your study? I would be interested to know.

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    1. I have customed a post that I think would answer most of your questions.The post explains how experience can impact behavior,behavior is not at all genetic.We are born knowing nothing so experiences form the basis for our behavior,both conscious and unconscious contributions.

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  2. Maybe because I was the last child, and never saw my mother nurturing another baby, it had an influence on me not being interested in babies at all? I did have tea parties, but with my stuffed animals and plastic horses. I was also very much a tomboy, as they said back then – I wanted to fly so made wings and jumped off the roof, built airplanes out of scrap wood, played with toy cars and Lego (before they made kits with a specific idea in mind). But I also read a lot and loved nature – not really things that girls were supposed to do when I was little.

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  3. Good to hear from you, Mr. Sammy Bennett. Twenty years ago similar analyses were done, but with an opposite conclusion: boys were better prepared than girls to be successful in the world. The synthesis here is that our conclusions are products of our times and circumstances. And even this relativist conclusion of mine is a product of the breakdown of intellectual consensus (to include of the colonialist mindset in the West) during the cataclysmic twentieth century. With best wishes, William Eaton, Montaigbakhtinian

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    1. Very true Mr.William Eaton,we appear in different backgrounds with different methods of upbringing,this might influence the certain changes that are brought about by difference in sex


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